Autism with a smile

It sounds if we have no friends or family left.... But that is not true. In the beginning we had to deal with our own beliefs, struggle with accepting and finding a way to let this miracle of recovering really come true. All the people that where around us then, are still there and to be honest we've a whole lot more friends and loving people around us then we ever had. There is really a lot to be grateful for and one of the biggest things!!!!..... are the lessons that the loving people at the Autism Treatment Center of America™ give to us. We have learned that if we do not belief in the possibilities of recovering from autism it is most likely that we put no or less energy into a child that "never can chance". With the belief that we will make a difference in the out come of autism we are making a difference....................

Autism with a smile

The other type seems .... how could i explain.... more "acceptance". They where super enthusiastic, amazed that instead of what they did belief, autism is not for life. Of coarse was in every conversation a deep hidden skepticism...... But for us was at that time those people the most chewable (we thought)
We started our Son-Rise^® program and start to chance our way of life. Because of the chance in beliefs about autism we became super acceptable, loving, joining and celebrating people. This way of living was so shocking that we lost some of those super enthusiastic people and those who want to "stay" got the strong feeling that they had to interfere some how. We had to tell (after we tried to speak with them about the Son-Rise^®program) that they (thinking, do not be judgmental but loving, accepting, understanding) are welcome if they stop to undermine our perfect "autism heeling" environment that we build for our son Tybalt.
To deal whit people who has the strong belief that they now " what is the best" is not easy. It did take a lot of our energy and liquid (tears)........

Autism with a smile

Most of the time we had to deal with two types of people. One type was telling us to bring Tybalt in a home for autistic people. They build their beliefs about autism upon the old thinking that autism is a life long disease and we never will have the energy to take care of him his whole life. We also can not give the necessary attention to the other members of the family. It is the hard way of living and we do not wish that for you. It is your choice and your life of course and we don't want to interfere with that but.............................

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First of all! never ever let a judgment of people who surround you be important in making a choice.
Reason: You will never make the write choice, there will always be people who think that you make the wrong one.
If you chose, make the one that fits you!
We made the choice to help our son at home. We did not listen to the medical advice. If we had listen our son was now living in a institute with now hope of recovering. We how ever start the son-rise program and it was the write choice for us and our child! He is recovering and we belief that he will soon be able to start learning at a normal school.
Was it easy to make this choice? Yes and no. Most of the people who surrounding us where telling us that it was not write to putt that amount of energy in one child. It should be bad for the rest of the family and we would never have the experience to give the best medical attention to Tybalt our autistic son. We are happy that we never took this kind of advice. They thought that they where helping us the best they could and we never judge them for that but they where so wrong......

Autisme with a smile

This week i will try to get on paper what we where up to when we must make the choice between keeping our son at home or bring him to an institute.
I do not promise any answer to questions you maybe have but i hope it will help you to find the answers in your self.