Autism with a smile.

How do we make contact with some one that, so it seems, has no interest in other people and is most of the time or often in his or her own world?
First of all I must say that there is no reason to believe that people who are most of the time in their own world has no interest in others. They may have to chose to be in their safe mode because of all the stimuli that is around. Because of this stimuli they can not handle the contact with others. It is also possible that you are the drop in the bucket that is to much. So as i told already in a earlier blog we must take away the stress factors and start allover again. If we want to make contact we have to be sure that noting els can stress them. If this is in order we make sure that we are have the right attitude to make contact. We will not force this contact by pushing them ore constantly telling "hey I want to talk to you". No we will wait until the person that is with us in the room will contact us! This could be a blink of an eye or a touch or......... At this point they have made contact and we are so happy about it that we will celebrate this as if it is the most beatyfull thing in the whole world. And what if they do not choose to make contact????? We will join them in wath ever they are doing. We will join with the same atention and rithme as they are doing. This joining of each other is to create a total feeling of comfort. Let me give you an example, If you are relexing and reading a book on the sofa and i come in and sit next to you and wand something from you........ I askt but you say no I want ot read so I start to push you because I realy want something from you ....... Thise will give you a feeling of..............? There is absolutly no comfort in the situation what so ever. But if I come in and just sit next to you on the sofa and start also to read a book and wait until you take the turn to speak to me... then i have the "green light" to ask you what ever I want to ask you without being a pain in the ....! ore just interrupting your relax moment.